From Loveless Home to Relationship Coach

Warning: This is NOT a sob story. I’m not looking for your pity, and I wouldn’t take it if you offered it. This is simply the reason I do what I do now, and what I would love to help YOU with.

I come from what you might consider a “good home.” We always had food on the table and enough money to do most things. And as a Finnish person, education was free so I had everything I needed.

Except love and support.

Our family was never was close. Or at least I wasn’t close to my family. We didn’t openly love each other. Acceptance needed to be earned, not something you were given unconditionally.

As a result, my emotional life was rough, to say the least. Desperately looking for love and acceptance, doing my best to please other people just to get the tiniest bit of warmth. Then, on the few occasions that someone would lend me their attention for even a moment, I would abandon them immediately because of whatever issues I had at the time.

Yeah, I was really fucked up. It would’ve been easy to just give up. Just lead some miserable non-existance and die of depression? A lot of people do that. But I was too curious for that. Too scientifically minded and rebellious to let it go.

Not to mention stubborn as a mule.

I decided to figure out what love is, and why I seemed incapable of it.

That was a long time ago. I don’t claim to have cracked some sort of love code. But what I have learned are things like

  • why arguing is essential for a healthy relationship
  • how to create meaningful and deep connections within minutes of meeting someone
  • how a healthy love life can massively improve your business
  • why being selfish is the key to unconditionally loving others
  • why modern society is poisoning our concept of a healthy relationship

I’ve come to realize that like me, most people are broken. Hiding deep pain, fear and hurt on the inside. Most people live a life of shallow, unfulfilling, codependent relationships because on some level, they’re unable to love themselves.

The worst thing is – it shows up in every other aspect of your life as well. It’s impossible to get fit or lose weight if you don’t love yourself. It’s impossible to succeed in business if your love life is broken. Stress, unhappiness, and downright BOREDOM are the direct results of an unhealthy love life.

And we’ve come to accept this as normal.

Well I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be.

That feeling of hollowness, loneliness? That haunting weight of living an unfulfilled life? When you hold on to a loved one out of desperation rather than appreciation? It doesn’t have to be that way.

I eventually learned to recognize the times when my family expressed love, in their own peculiar way. I’ve learned to accept and appreciate them with all their imperfections, as I accept myself with all my imperfections.

Let me help you figure out this part of your life, so you can become the limitless human being you were meant to be.

Join our Facebook group to get started!


Jay Pitkänen

Head coach at Rat Race Maverick, and moonlight marketer. Connoisseur of Cabernet Sauvignon. Spot him driving a Jaguar or Corvette at high speeds over long distances.

Click Here to Leave a Comment Below